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  • Thelma Gite Dover

    Sometimes it is very hard to say no to my kids but I get up the strength to just SAY NO.

  • Nicole D. C

    I think I’m pretty good at saying NO. It often depends on the situation.

  • Karen T

    It’s in my nature to be helpful and drop everything I’m doing when somebody needs something. But when it gets to the point that they expect it from me, NO.

  • Sylvia

    As a teacher of 5 year olds I always try to soften a no with ” let’s try another way, or that’s really not a good choice.” But certain occasions arise when only a NO! will suffice. I try to explain the reason behind the no but this word does serve a good purpose and I would be doomed without it.

  • dottie p

    i never used to say no. i got myself into a lot of hot water, but as i’ve gotten older, and the less i can physically do the more i say no. i still do what i can to help but i can’t do a lot of things i used to. so i am saying no a lot more

  • Kerry Tompsett

    I have a 3 and a 5 year old, I constantly tell them no. But do they listen all the time? Of course not, they’re still so young. It all depends on the situation how hard or easy it is to say no.

  • Charlene Brown

    Sometimes it can be very difficult. As I get older, I learnt “No” is just a way of showing “Tough Love” So, I learned its ok to say “No” sometimes. I’ve always been the kind hearted one but since raising 4 grown babies. “No”, has become more part of my vocabulary.

  • MyKinKStar

    I know my abilities and though I have failed a few times I am usually honest about it and have no problems saying no to anyone. We live, we learn, and I’m grateful to have gotten this right a long time ago when I was young.

  • Deb

    Depends on who’s asking. If it’s a telemarketer or a pair of Jehovah Witness’s I have no problem saying no. My grandkids are a different story. There are times for “No” and a time for “Yes”. As I get older I have come to realize that if it’s not going to kill them..(or me), then the answer is always “Yes”. I wish that I could have a do-over on all the times that I told my kids “no” when they were growing up. I didn’t realize how hard life was going to treat them. It sure is easier to be a grandparent than a parent.

  • Sue W.

    I am pretty good at it except when it comes to the grandkids, then I’m a big mushy marshmallow…hard to say NO to those cuties!

  • MT

    Depends who I need to say no to. To my wife, it’s very hard. To my son, it’s easy.

  • Erin Estilette

    After all these years, I still have a hard time saying no. I have this idea that it is some kind of betrayal when I say no, but I’m understanding when others say no to me. I really need to work on being more assertive.

  • Noel Stewart

    The older I get the easier to say no!

  • Merm123

    When I became newly single in my mid 20’s, guys were asking me out all the time on dates (NOT TO BRAG) but I just needed time to myself and stay away from men for awhile so anytime a guy asked me on a date it was always “NO”. Now i’m older and single and no one asks me out on a date anymore and my answer would change because its a lonely world out there and nice to have a companion. Life is passing me by 🙁 but at least I have other goals that I am focusing on like work, health etc.

  • Leslie Anne Soloman

    Yes it is still hard to say “no”, however it is getting easier. Just last week a young woman that I know texted me “what you doing?”. I texted back on my break that I was in class, she texted back “what time do you get out?” I replied 10:30. She then texted could I take her to the hospital when I get out. I texted back “no” bam end of story.

  • Hirianys Castle

    It´s very hard to NO, if you have to say it to somebody loved like your child, your mom or your boyfriend. but is very hard to say NO to a chocolate cake when you are on a DIET!!! For me is very HARD!!! OMG

  • rose morgan

    Not hard at all. But, then again, it depends on who’s asking.

  • John Morgan

    For me it’s really hard to say no and as a result I often end up taking on more than I can. I find it especially hard to say no to a friend or family member when they ask for help like moving or lending money.

  • Rusty Carper

    I have trouble with saying no. Which I ended up not wanting to be around other people. Not being able to say no got me into a huge financial mess. Which will take me years to fix my credit. It seems like people want to take take take, but never want to help me back. I got rid of the negativity and feel better off alone. Even though I feel lonely all the time, but that’s the price I pay for being too nice of a person.

  • Steve Kendall-White

    Hard for me especially to my kids don’t like to see them up set. My wife always gets mad at me tells me your not their frind or their dad learn to say no I just cant

  • Richard Vargas

    It took me a long time to learn, but sometimes you just have to say no.

  • Kari McDowell

    Saying NO is easy. Sticking with no can be a little harder.

    • Kimberlee Bradley

      I love a good healthy NO. Simple. Straight forward. End of discussion. Although it has not always been a simple word to use. I had to grow up before. I found the courage to just say “No”.

  • Carol Miller

    I definitely was a person who could NEVER say “no.” No matter how inconvenient or distasteful the task I was always the one that everyone called on. The refrain always was,
    “Do you think you could?” ” I have no one else to turn to”. “I knew I could count on you.” I actually was getting disgusted with myself for not being able to say NO. Then I started reading up on this malaise. I learned that people who were extreme in this category were: Afraid of rejection, Not being accepted, and Not being loved. Most of the time it was fear that was subjecting them to this “I can’t say no”syndrome. Once I sat and thought about it I knew that described me. I also read it would eventually harm your health. That was the final Stop Sign for me. Now, if it fits into my schedule and I have the time fine. I refuse to feel guilty any more about the answer, “NO.”

  • DM

    It was always hard to say no to my son. But as a Mom I had to use tough love and learn when to say no, for his own good. Now that he is gone I have again had to learn to say no to others in my life and it has gotten easier the older and wiser I have gotten.

  • Megan Chorniak

    Unfortunately, I am a person who has no problem saying ‘No’. I am not a huge people pleaser so when I can’t or do not want to commit to something then I don’t accept the obligation. Though, there is this principle in the Bible that says that if you say ‘Yes’ to something you are supposed to be true to that promise. But if you say ‘No’ then that’s equally as important to keep your word. So I make sure that I don’t get myself into a situation where I say ‘Yes’ to something yet later realize I shouldn’t have. That situation is much worse than the other way around. So my go to is a ‘No’.

  • Stacie Snow

    its according to who is asking I always said no to the kids but I’m bad about saying yes to my grandkids for everything!

  • Renae Brannon

    Its easy to say no except to my youngest daughter.

  • Natania

    Honestly, I have a hard time saying “no” to my daughter. She’s a really good kid, she makes good grades, she really don’t do anything for me to raise my voice ever. All her friend’s love hanging out at our house, so when she asks (which is almost everyday), I normally don’t mind. As she gets older I would rather them hang out here, than be out getting in trouble. My Mom is always saying. “you get her everything she wants, she doesn’t even know what the word NO means!” We go to the dollar store a lot but I always say if 5 – 10 bucks keeps her happy and she’s good, why not? I can only pray as she get’s older and enters her teenage years, she continues doing good in school, and she knows she can come to me with anything and to just always remember to make the right choices.

  • Sarah Turner

    Its hard to say no when you have a two year old that keeps ask for something.

  • Nisha

    It depends on situation.Nobody likes to say “no” to a closest one , but sometimes I just have to say it. If I am agreeing to something doable and its not going to hurt me in anyway, then I would say yes! Overall, I would usually say yes to things because of human connection. Only if it hurts me in anyway or if I really don’t want to do it, then I would decline. I remember a time where someone asked me to HC because they wanted to joke around but they bought flowers and a poster. They were a close friend to me too. So in this scenario, it was really difficult to say no. Especially in front of a crowd. However, I overcame my fear of being judged because at the end of the day, it’s my life and I said no. I would like to learn to say no more easily so that I could confidently defend myself. I believe that the best way to really say “no” would be when you really mean it. Yes, it did. I feel stronger and reassured that I have the chance to say no when I want to. For example, if I am ever pressured about doing bad things, I could really not be involved by saying no since I do not want to be a part of it.

  • carpediem5790

    VERY HARD TO SAY NO.Instead I say: we will see, hmmmm, let me think on that, i’ll get back to you, i’m not sure, I need more information, are you sure that is right? I need to incubate that thought at least overnight, write me a note, I’ve too much on my mind at the moment. Do you need an answer right now. I could go on and on. Some get it, all that means probably not. Can’t even type it here. Seems I can only say no when it comes to affecting my children. Mama bear can speak up for them!

  • ramadevi

    In my younger age I was scared to say “no” to my family, friends and others. It was very difficult for me to say no and I was feeling that saying no is negative, not to hurt others, and may lead to misunderstanding etc. I brought up with my sisters and brothers always I obeyed them. It was like saying no to elders is disrespectful. Thats why I was getting it difficult to say no. I went through lots of thinking to get it right. Slowly I learned to expand my answer with explanation to say “no” using other words like- let me see, let me think etc. Saying no sometimes difficult. Then I realized that everyone has right to express yes or no. It depends what kind of situation. Now I first listen, understand and then I react to give the answer. So I learned to say no when I have to say no.

  • Ken Grant

    It is very hard if you fear confrontation. Eventually there is a reckoning … better early than late.

  • Brian Vaughn

    Personally, I’ve always had trouble saying no because that’s the type of person I am. If someone wants something or needs something, I’ll give it to them if I’m able to. Sometimes for even people I didn’t like, but I’m just an easily forgiving person. But I’m starting to move away from that and stop letting people take advantage. Sometimes no is the best answer.

  • Ray Ayala

    It is hard to say “no” because I don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings. I wish there were a course on how to say “no”. I would sign up for that course, sit in the front row, and learn how to diplomatically say “no” with tact and skill.

  • Savannah

    it’s very hard to say no!

  • edeliz

    It depends on who is asking. I have a VERY hard time saying no to some members of my family. Outside, in a work environment, I’ve learned that NO is a powerful word.

  • OceanGirl

    It was (and still is) hard for me to say no to people. Bad news: Deep down, I think I’m a “people pleaser” and/or fear rejection. The good news is that as I get older (and wiser), I am getting a bit better at saying no to people. i think that if the person is a “true” friend, then they’ll accept no from you and not hold a grudge. And if they do hold a grudge, then that person is not a friend and probably just wanted something from you.

  • Aries13

    I think it gets easier to say no the older you get. As our priorities change and our patience levels change, “no” becomes more of the norm and seems to be accepted easier as well.

  • Tbag

    Straight up saying no is extremely difficult for me, so I like rephrasing it to make the no sound a lot nicer. If I deep inside wanna say no then I will phrase it in a nice way such as “I would love to but…”. Something I learned through the years 🙂

  • Candie Coffey Frazier

    It honestly depends on who it is. I can tell my fiance no all day long. What he wants is usually material items that cost a small fortune. However, When our four year son looks up at us with those blue eyes telling him no can be a challenge. We dont give him everything he wants but when he is standing there wanting you to watch Iron Man for the 15th time how do you say no?

  • Mikel laspalas

    As I get older I find easier to say no. I’ve always been a very giving person until one person tried to take advantage of me

  • Lisa Gagnon

    somewhere along the line i guess we all had that problem at least i did but yeah as we get older and wiser it still can be hard at times towards our kids and others involved but if we do not stand up for ourselves who will

  • Bryan Williams

    “There is an easy way to say no.”

  • laurie beth smith

    very easy. i say it alot.,

  • Monica

    You know I have ruined my life letting others cons me out of money. I hear a sob story and I give them 1-2 grand, at worst 5 grand to save a finger from being chopped off… and I get told I am selfish rather then thanks, and I have loaned so much I can’t get a homeloan and it takes a year for my family to let me live with them which takes my whole bank account away until I have nothing let., and now I am giving out 40 dollars a month when I save only 100 dollars a month just because the same person wants to not pay for the phone or internet if I don’t put in 40 dollars per month. I wish I had just said NO.