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  • Julie Dascoli-Yanop

    i am very strong with my beliefs. My opinions are hard to change. But I did change my opinion on my boss. I couldn’t stand him when I started working for him…now here I am almost 10 years later and we are the best of friends!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      That’s great, Julie! It’s always more pleasant to work for someone you like.

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    Many years ago, before I was a Post Partum/Nursery nurse, my brother had said to me, “Some people shouldn’t be allowed to have children.” I thought to myself, ” What a rotten thing to say!” My opinion changed when I had to take care of newborns of drug-addicted mothers. Those poor, innocent babies had to go through hell just because SOME (not all) of their mothers were so selfish they just didn’t care that they had another life inside them. I’ve met moms who were on methadone. Unfortunately, their babies had to go through withdrawal, too, but at least their mom’s were trying to get off drugs. I got to know one of these mothers pretty intimately through her and her baby’s time with us. These are not the kind of moms I’m speaking of. I’m talking about moms that only think of themselves. There are also moms out there who have emotional issues and need to be on medication but won’t listen to anyone and refuse treatment. I’ve seen too many kids of those moms. Those kids grow up at a disadvantage, just because mom only thinks of herself. I’m sure there are people who won’t agree with this post, but they probably haven’t seen what I have at work and in other situations.

    • Sowmya

      I agree with you Diane!!

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        Thanks, Sowmya. It upsets me just to think about how many babies the other nurses and I wished were not going home with their moms. Some didn’t, thanks to Child Protective Services.

    • Karen T

      That is so sad. Something really needs to be done about getting kids to be active and keep them away from drugs and alcohol.
      I think most of it needs to start with the parents. Like getting their neighbors to let them know who’s coming in and out of their house while they’re at work. And getting the kid’s friends to speak up when you know they know something. How would they feel if the situation were reversed? A lot of these kids get dragged into a situation they normally wouldn’t have wanted but feel they have no way out. And they have a lot of misplaced loyalties. If parents woukd get more involved then the young boys would care more about not getting a girl pregnant when they’re not financially or physically fit to do so. And girls need to be talked to have more respect for themselves. I could probably go on about this all week. But I do agree with you Diane.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        Thanks, Karen. I had a couple who were in high school. They boy looked like he was twelve. They would sit in her room and watch cartoons. Their friends would come to visit and the baby would get passed around like it was a doll. I wonder how long they stayed together? I hate to say it but the odds are against them.

        • Karen T

          12???!!! They’re just babies themselves! It’s unbelievable how many of these kids think they “know it all”.

          • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

            I think he was probably a little older than that but he really looked that age!

    • Carol Miller

      I totally agree with you, Diane. I have dealt at the elementary level (I was counselor at 2 elementary schools in my district for 2 years) and we had children in kindergarten who had been born to drug addicted mothers and they either lagged behind terribly or had learning disabilities. Very sad.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        Thanks, Carol. I appreciate the support. It’s such a touchy subject but some People who haven’t seen bad outcomes can’t or don’t want to understand.

    • Aine

      I couldn’t agree more Diane.
      As you know my daughter is a NICU nurse and she has essentially said the same thing : “some people should not be allowed to have children”. It was particularly difficult for her to see the pain and medical issues that these tiny babies had to endure while my daughter was having her own fertility issues . She jokingly and bitterly said once ” I ought to just do crack , because those women seem to have no trouble getting pregnant ”
      It’s especially hard to swallow when there are so many people who can’t have children that would be exceptional parents.
      Also, Carol is right , those scars last a lifetime. Besides the horrors of withdrawal they have an elevated risk of birth defects, premature delivery , as well as a higher probability of learning delays , social /emotional issues , etc.
      it’s an issue that I feel strongly about.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        Thank you, Aine. One of my teachers in nursing school went through just what your daughter did. She was a NICU nurse with fertility issues. She told us all about what it made her feel like. I was infertile. It took 3 years, surgery, drugs & insemination to finally get pregnant. And yes, it seemed like so many people on illicit drugs get pregnant so easily (and often!).

    • Diane, thank you for not categorizing all addicts as the same. I am a recovering addict, almost 7 years clean & sober. 6 & half years ago I became pregnant with my 1st. I didn’t find out until I was about 5 months along. Right then and there i never touched anything again. I knew this was a sign. I was lucky my daughter was born completely healthy, no drugs in her system, no defects, nothing but we did have to stay 3 extra days because in my state it’s mandated to have baby remain a minimum 5 days if any point within utero drugs get detected & seeing there was when I 1st found out. Anywho, staying those few extra days I got to see tons of mom’s with babies withdrawing & most of them didn’t even care. I would over hear some on the phone with their dealer or just talking about getting high, then complain to the nurses about their baby withdrawing & such. It was unbelievable. Not once did i think twice about getting high again since i found out i was pregnant, so if i could of done it, then why couldn’t they, ya know? Bringing a life into this world is a blessing and a responsibility. Some people truly do not see it that way and are careless. Children are innocent & I used to be one of those people too who didn’t like it when others said “certain people shouldn’t be allowed to have kids,” but it’s true, some shouldn’t. If my post offends anyone or thinks I’m sharing too much, well I am an honest person and an open book. I am not the person I once was. I dont even know that person anymore.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        I know you don’t know me but, having been a Post Partum and Nursery nurse, I’m very, very proud of you. When my daughter was in the NICU (she was born 9 weeks early because of complications from my emergency bowel resection) I saw the same things that you did regarding SOME new moms. The social worker even asked me if I would speak with some of these mothers. You did something that I consider one of the hardest things a person has to do. And you did it because you really cared about someone other than yourself. But it’s such a hard thing to withdraw from opioids. So Congrats! I have a lot of respect for you! I’m sure you’re a great mom!!!

  • Maxine Hunter

    I don’t do change well I get upset when change comes my way lol but I am learning on how to deal with it cause it’s life right ? So I am not as bad now when it comes to change

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Don’t feel bad. Most of my husband’s family can’t do change or make decisions, including my own daughter. The “decision” thing is way worse.

  • Christy

    My daughter had convinced me that her husband, during their divorce, was a horrible and hateful man, not interested in his children. I’ve lived in the house with him, helping to raise my grandchildren that he has custody of, for 9 months now and he is the most loving,caring father and he’s a very kind-hearted and peace-loving man. The fact that he tolerates his ex-wife’s mother living in his home during the week, for the sake of his children, speaks volumes and I’m ashamed that it took me so long to open my eyes and change my opinion.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Good for you, Christy! I’m happy for you. You never really know about people until you can judge for yourself.

  • dolfanatl

    I used to think that having Donald Trump run for president was a great idea. Now I realize I was crazy for thinking that, but not as crazy as Trump himself.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Agreed! I watched his “press conference” yesterday. He made himself sound like a real nutter.

  • MT

    That all survey sites were scams. I really believed that until I got paid myself!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Yep! Vindale is real! I’ve gotten a few checks myself.

  • Richard Vargas

    I used to think America was the land of the free. Unless you are Native American, you are an immigrant. Pot meet kettle.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      True!

    • Deb

      Immigrants are fine. It’s just the illegal aliens that are the problem.

      • Richard Vargas

        Oh Deb, I want so much to argue this, but you are right. ♡ 🙂

  • Mark Hall

    When I was younger it was all about impressing friends, girls, my boss etc now I have realised the only person I have to impress is me and if I’m happy then all is good. Selfish no, doing things that I want to do is far more important than doing things because others measure themselves that way.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Great attitude. Sounds good to me, Mark!

  • Sue W.

    I always believed in giving everyone a fair chance, the older I get the less tolerant I seem to be.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I know what you mean. I seem to have little patience for some of my grown daughter’s “friends”…and I was a Girl Scout Leader! I had lots of patience when I was younger and so much less now.

  • Noel Stewart

    I was leery about visiting some friends in Florida for a bar-b-cue, because I thought there would be crocodiles and lizards all over the backyard. However, they have huge screened in backyard areas they call lanais to keep them out. Just be sure to keep the screen doors shut tightly.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      My sister-in-law lives in Florida. She said if you don’t stay in the screened-in area, you get “attacked” by flying bugs!

  • Erin Estilette

    My opinions on the big stuff hasn’t changed. I used to throw up at the sight of Swiss cheese. Now I love it! Haha.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      LMBO!!! I HATE Swiss cheese and got stuck eating it last weekend at a party with a six foot sub for the guests. I would have pulled it off but then I would have lost all of my lettuce!

      • Erin Estilette

        LOL! Though I like it now, I still have the memories of hating it, so I feel your pain!

  • dottie p

    the one i am having right now. i am so angry with my brother. I got home yesterday from knee replacement surgery. and up until about 5 minutes ago he was my favorite brother. now i want to kick him where the sun don’t shine, i asked him to go buy a bag of ice so i could keep ice on it and he won’t spend the $2.00 to get a bag of ice to hold me over until the ice he is making is ready. i am so hurt, angry and disappointed in him. i always thought he was the most loving brother but i am finding out he will spend $1,000.00 to get a scratch fixed on his precious car but not $2.00 on me so i can have the swelling go down and so i don’t hurt. (a$Hwipe) i told him about needing the ice yesterday, he said he was going to make it and he just started 24 hours later. thank god my daughter has $7.00 on her credit card and she is going to get me a bag. he even said “i’m not buying the ice, i can’t afford it and she’s your mother. ” (thanks for letting me vent)

    • Deb

      dottie, I hope that you’re feeling much better today. Brothers are a pain in the butt sometimes, but hey! They’re still out brothers. He’ll probably start to feel guilty about how he acted and do something really nice for you in a day or two. Feel better!!

      • dottie p

        thank you Diane K. and Deb. LOL my brother has no empathy, and feels no guilt. but at least now he is keeping me in ice, (and he is remembering to make it) but he still complains about it. it’s like he thinks i had this surgery to make him do this for me. grrrrr.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          My husband seems to think I’m only sick when I’m in the hospital and that once they release me, I’m fine (even though I walked around with a perforated intestine for who knows how long).

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      My son had his wisdom teeth out a week ago, so I get it. Vent all you want. We’re listening. Feel better soon, Dottie!!!

  • Paul Clément

    Unfortunately, through the years, I have drastically changed my opinion vis-à-vis my Church. I was a staunch advocate until recent experience taught me that in many cases in which i was involved, money seemed to matter more than people to my local leaders. Without going into specifics, let me just point out that a group I am involved with that has supported our church morally, physically and financially for the last 60+ years has recently suffered losses in property we had undertaken to manage for them all the while investing half a million dollars in it. We were also informed that a unit we were using would see a 100% increase in rent. Needless to say we had to move elsewhere. After doing so much we were tossed under the bus and basically made to sacrifice our needs to save their butts. Shameful!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      My daughter’s friend’s family was very active in their church. (Dad was in charge of the youth group, etc.) Their house was foreclosed on and next thing you know, they were told not to come back. I guess they couldn’t donate all that money any more. My sister has emotional problems. She was in her church choir and was also told, after being a member for many years, not to come back. So much for support!

  • Kari McDowell

    My belief in people. I grew up thinking that if something wasn’t right you should do everything you can to “fix” it. Waving around signs, burning flags, throwing stones at police officers is not the way anything ever gets put right. Go out in your community and help just one person, just one and in the end it helps both America and yourself. If you are upset with the government, take a look in the mirror and ask, what am I doing to help? AND for goodness sake – VOTE!!!!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Yes, vote, even in your local elections. Change can start from the bottom up!

  • Denise N.

    My biggest change of opinion happened on Fb last night. My opinion on immigration got perspective and clarity. Instead of focusing on the whole I had an opportunity to look at individual parts and by that consideration my opinion is this; yes, we are all immigrants but we’re a long way from the 1600’s. Laws have defined consequences. Families should not be torn apart. One for all for one.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Those poor people that were brought over as children. They’re not citizens but know no other life. Our new president says he’ll make his decision regarding them with “heart”. Why do I not believe him?

      • Denise N.

        Oh I do. I believe that our justice system exists for a reason. I believe that anyone caught breaking laws are to be held responsible for their actions. I also believe that a family unit should stay together and children of depported parents should go with those parents. If these parents were instead sentenced to a jail term then our social programs bear the responsibility of raising them. But deportation is a small penaltt to pay. To go even further I also believe that friends and families are the door for illegal entry into the U.S. yet there is little investigation, documentation or penalties for aiding illegals into our country. There should be,.I am not cold hearted or cruel. I am just seeing the issue as it directly affects everyone.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          Yes, our justice system did right when they put a stay on Trump’s immigration ban. People who have been vetted after working for the US as translators, etc. and are now in danger for their lives should not have been stopped from entering our country. Thank goodness for checks and balances!

  • Beatrice

    September 11, 2001 changed not only my opinion about national security. but many Americans opinions. It was a devastating event that ruined many lives, but also brought many positive things like the creation of Homeland Security. Before this event I didn’t think that people’s privacy should be invaded by the government, but after that occurred, I realized that sacrificing our privacy is a small price to pay for our own protection from international and domestic terrorism. If you have nothing to hide, why should it bother you, if it can potentially protect you? You can see this in the Boston Marathon bombings, if they would of been monitored more closely after the suspicions of the older brother, maybe they would have seen how the younger brother was watching Al Qaeda videos !! The irony is that now I want to work for Homeland security once I graduate and prevent any harms to the United States.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I know someone who works for them, Beatrice. She loves her job! Go for it!!!

      • Beatrice

        Yeah, it sounds like a great job. I’m almost done with my Bachelor’s in Criminal Justice 😉 and getting a certification in Homeland Security!!

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          My son has his associates in criminal justice. He works in Security for our local Police Athletic League but says he has to “get in shape” so he can get a job in criminal justice. He’ll get there. He should also go back to school for his Bachelors degree.

          • Beatrice

            I recommend that he pursue it even further to a Master’s degree. After my bachelor’s, I will be doing my Master’s. I spoke to an FBI agent and he told me that a higher degree is better and makes you stand out as a candidate. Also, interning with the FBI, or even volunteering at a police department, are things he suggested to me to do. Oh, I am in no shape or form as I just had my son 6 weeks ago!! I need to get on that exercise mode soon, lol.!!

            • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

              Beatrice, thanks so much for the advice. I’ll let my son know! My stepson volunteered for the county he lives in on Long Island (NY). He’s now a deputy sheriff and training others.

              • Beatrice

                Oh, you very welcomed! Yeah, doing things someone else wouldn’t makes you stand out, and puts you a step in further than the others. And the Criminal Justice field is very competitive. Having a bachelor’s degree now-a-days isn’t like it was 20 years ago (I’m talking as if I was born in the 60s) but now, I am 25. Before you could easily get jobs with a HS diploma, now it is difficult, as they view it as nothing, really. Even now, I have my AA, almost my BAS, but no job =/… Sigh.

                • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

                  I ended up going back to my old job 6 months after I left it. I had my AA in nursing but now I had to agree to get my bachelors within 5 years to be able to keep my job. I wasn’t grandfathered in anymore!

                  • Beatrice

                    Yeah, it has been noted that jobs are requiring higher education now. It is not like before that with a High school degree you could make over 50 grand a year, now to even make 22 grand a year is difficult! I know this because my father was the head of security for many big corporations here in Miami back in the day, and he only had his HS diploma. If it were now, he wouldn’t have been able to do that.

  • Merm123

    My biggest change of opinion is of how people only care about themselves but I find this to be untrue. My co-workers son has been missing for over a month now and no sign of him at all. Cameron Bailie from Oshawa is the person I am referring to and I just wanted to comment that the friends and community have all taken so much time and care so much about finding him that they are posting pictures and doing field searches for him everywhere. We hope he will be found soon but if you think people are selfish, in this case it is so untrue and they care so much that it breaks my heart that we still haven’t found him yet.

    • Karen T

      That is terrible news. And I hope and pray they find him soon. Where are they posting his picture on the internet?

      • Merm123

        Yes very sad for the family. If you look up Cameron Bailie Search Group Oshawa you will see the link and all the information where we are trying to find him. What a great community and doing so much and caring. He is 27 years old with a young son.

    • Natania

      Merm123 I am so sorry to hear this, I will keep Cameron Bailie in my prayers and I will ask for him to be on our prayer list at church. These kind of stories really get to me. I hope you guys find him soon safe and sound.

      • Merm123

        Thank you Natania. I appreciate your prayers for my dear friend and her family especially her son and hope for his safe return especially for his young son who keeps asking where his daddy is.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      That’s so awful. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.

      • Merm123

        Thank you so much Diane. They were out searching again for him today but no trace but that can be a good sign as well. Amazing how this community cares.

  • Deb

    My biggest change of opinion is realizing that no one really cares about my opinion. I’ve found that what they really want is for me to agree with their opinion.

    • Karen T

      I agree. That some people will get to a point where they actually talk over you if you’re not saying what they want to hear.

    • Marvene Patterson

      Not sure I agree, but I am not the average person…. I like to surround myself with people who think differently than I do because they challenge me to examine or re-examine how I reached my current conclusion. However, if they think that they need to convert me to their way of thinking and/or do not respect my POV, then I keep them at a distance and let them know why (of course, that is easy to say and harder to act upon)

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I’m interested in your opinions, Deb. I like to hear different opinions, not just my own. I have even changed my thinking on some isssues. What would the world be like if everyone thought the same way? Probably pretty boring!

    • Keith

      Sometimes I think I’m right there with you on this one. OR, they want your opinion(s) when it’s beneficial to them. I’ve definitely learned that certain topics/opinions are completely off-limits to some of my friends. (ie: a bad husband/father, family issues, addictions, etc). We need to just find better friends that are able to handle an opinion that’s not their own, or goes against what they think. However, with a POTUS in office that struggles with taking a critic/opinion, makes it more acceptable for others to behave this way. Good luck hun!

  • Leslie Anne Soloman

    My biggest change of opinion was when I decided that I would get married rather than stay single with a baby.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      It does seem to make life a little easier. I’d say about 50% of my patients (new moms) were married.

  • MyKinKStar

    I used to think everyone has a good in them, and that WE are the majority and should be thankful for it. I’ve come to realize as I’ve gotten older, that there are too many people who are completely and totally worthless. They are miserable users and their every effort is about sucking up what doesn’t belong to them; and causing harm or pain to anyone else throughout their day. They are liars and thieves and will never change for love or caring. Head’s up everyone, we all know someone like this and some of us haven’t learned to stay clear of them. Save yourself first!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      My daughter’s best “friend” is very much like that. We’ve been trying to tell her that this girl is going to suck her dry. I think today she finally realized it. I’m doing my “happy dance” right now!

  • Prettie Redd

    My biggest change of opinion has to be about gay marriage being legalized. At first I was totally against it as i felt that Homosexuals shouldnt be allowed to become one as it is not stated in the bible. I felt that legalizing gay marriage would confuse our generation to come and create a lot of hate in the states as they would see homosexuality as a major issue. But then, Two years ago, i met the love of my lie and YOU GUESSED IT, She is a female. I was afraid to be seen with her in public because i didn’t want to be judged or side eyed. I would hide her from my family because i didn’t want to become the “black sheep” because of my newfound sexuality. After a while the lies started to take a toll on me and on top of that i wanted people to see us together because she was an amazing outgoing person. i had to choose between living the way others saw fit for me or being truly happy. This opened my mind to believe that everyone has a right to love and be loved regardless of sexuality, size, and race. In the bible, it says that people shouldn’t have premarital sex or kids out of wedlock but it has become so common that no one looks at that as being a sin equal to homosexuality, theft, and greed. In the bible it says that if you repent it shall be forgiven and that is for any sin committed. I believe people should have freedom to love who they want to love and they should not be judged by anyone because everyone on earth is a sinner.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I’m glad you found happiness, Prettie. I’m sure you deserve it. It doesn’t matter who you are with, as long as they are a good person. The next generation isn’t phased at all when it comes to relationships of any type. I know because I have a 25 year old and a 22 year old. Sometimes I’ll point it out when I see it on TV, but not in a bad way. I still get “reprimanded” by my kids. Their exact words are, “Who cares, mom?” They are definitely more open-minded than the generation before them.

  • Carol Miller

    I know this is a very hot topic but I will admit that I have changed my stance on abortion. The 37 years I spent as a counselor changed me from pro-life to pro-choice. I have seen disturbed girls who were 15 years old get pregnant who could not even take care of themselves let alone an infant. I was in my school district long enough that those infants made it to Middle School and, in every case, had been physically and mentally neglected. I consider myself a pretty spiritual person and this was an extremely difficult topic for me. It took me quite a while to finally make up my mind. I also decided to research the matter. Amazingly, I found that the great philosopher, Thomas Acquinas, had touched on this topic. His philosophy was that a soul is not immediately present in a fetus at the moment of conception. I will conclude by saying that I do believe if an abortion takes place in the later stages of pregnancy it is murder. However, I hold not to judge any woman on what her choice is because “there but for the grace of God, go I.”

    • Deb

      I’m sorry that we have to agree to disagree on this. There are many families that would love to adopt. Abortion may seem like an easy fix, but it can emotionally scar a woman for a lifetime. The bible says that God knew you in the womb as you were being formed. There are circumstances where the decision may have to be made on which life the doctors can save, the mother’s or the baby’s. I don’t know who Thomas Acquinas is, but there is no way that he could know when the soul is present. It may have been his belief, but since we don’t know where the soul is located or even how or when it is formed, there cannot be an absolute scientific evidence of his theory. It is a horrific tragedy that so many children are not given the chance to have a life.

      • Carol Miller

        Thanks Deb for your comments. Yes, it was Thomas Acquinas’ opinion and you are absolutely right that no one knows exactly when a soul is actually instilled and I know the Bible says God knew you from the womb. I wish girls would choose adoption over abortion. I really do but, unfortunately, that is not the case. I also agree that it leaves a terrible scar on the mother or most mothers. Most unfortunately I know two women who had abortions whose conscience was not affected one iota. I still wonder how this can not affect them. It blows my mind because they are in my own extended family. I have prayed for them for years. I personally could never have an abortion but what I was really trying to say is that I now try not to judge these women

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I agree with you but for a different reason. The more money you have, the better legal representation you can get. There have been too many people on death row for years who have turned out to be proven innocent. How many were executed that were not killers?

      • Carol Miller

        Diane, you are absolutely right about innocent people being on death row. I should have included that as one of my reasons. How many times they have proven people innocent who have been in jail for a very long time.

        • Deb

          It’s a shame that innocent people are sometimes punished for something that they didn’t do. I think that DNA has brought a greatly needed breakthrough into our legal system. Hopefully, it will always be used in death sentencing.

    • Deb

      Carol, I respect your opinion on capital punishment, but my opinion is not the same. I have great respect for the judges and jurors that have to make that hard decision. I’m sure that it isn’t made lightly. To have a life or death decision in your hands has to be agonizing. I believe that there are some crimes so horrific that the death penalty is justified. Death is death, but the prisoners on death row brutally took an innocent life with no regard for their pain and suffering, nor the pain of their family for years to come. Texas doesn’t use the electric chair. It is death by lethal injection. A much more humane way to die than what their victims suffered. I would love for the world to be non violent and peaceful, unfortunately we live in a world where little children are abducted, sexually assaulted, and murdered. They have no voice. They only have the justice system to speak for them. I’m sorry to say, that some people cannot be rehabilitated. They are a scourge on humanity. I cannot reason that the same crimes were committed. A little girl was brutally murdered. A grown man was given a trial by his peers. He had defense attorneys. She had nothing.

  • Stacie Snow

    Is how I felt about my husbands brothers wife I would defend her to people when she was talked about and believe excuses she made up about things until they lost there home and had to Sta with us for a few months then I seen that what people were saying was true! It really hit me lil a brick between the eyes!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Yep, Stacie. You never really know someone until you’ve lived with them (except my husband’s ex. Everyone knows she’s a real nutter. She doesn’t even try to hide it).

  • Carolyn Moss

    My biggest change of opinion comes in reference to friends/acquaintances. I always have considered everyone in my life as a friend. I have come to realize that most people are just acquaintances. This has changed my expectations and realistic views on the people in my life and the people I will meet in the future. I will take their opinions less seriously and their role in my life less seriously. I will wish everyone well but know that most people are fleeting and few stay for the long holl of life.

    • Deb

      I’ve changed my opinion on that as well. True friends and caring relatives are few and far between. What’s that old saying? When you are happy everyone laughs with you. When you’re sad you cry alone.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        I found out who my real friends were when I got sick. Sorry to say there weren’t that many so you are absolutely right, Deb!

  • Sowmya

    My biggest change of opinion…..I never thought I can ever be comfortable and happy outside India. After my marriage I migrated to Melbourne, Australia with fear of uncertainty. I didn’t even realise, it’s already 21 years since I have migrated. I love this place and the people to the core!!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      We love you too, Sowmya! Glad you’re happy!!!

      • Sowmya

        Thank you Diane! 🙂

  • Amy Spate

    I was reading the question and looking at the picture. I thought to my self. The person who ask the question, were they asking about the picture or just in general? I thought, if I were right there with those beautiful porposis I’d be amazed and in aww. If I had to get in the water with that many at a time being there wild. My biggest change of opinion would be thinking I would get hurt with so many in a pod. Although I always wanted to be a marine biologist.

  • rose morgan

    People I don’t like turn out to be likable.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Yep. You never know.

  • Natania

    Years ago I was completely against methadone. I heard about people going to methadone clinics and I couldn’t understand why or how this place was legal. I just thought it was a place where people could go to get high and I had a one set mind, nothing or no one could change the way I thought. I guess this is where my immaturity came in and my “know it all” attitude. After I heard of methadone saving so many lives, even some of my friends and family members,I decided it was time to do some research of my own. I was really encouraged with what I read so I went a step further and actually talked to some individuals who were prescribed methadone and I couldn’t believe how thankful they were. I even drove over with a friend while she was getting her dose one day and there were so many people lined up waiting for them to open so they could get their medicine and got to to work. There were men in suits and ties, women/men in scrubs, and uniforms, people of all ages. I realized how brave and courageous all these people were for getting the help they needed and I felt disgusted with myself for being so negative.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I had a patient who was a new mom. She was on methadone. She wanted so badly not to be a heroin addict because of her new baby and was doing well because of the methadone. Unfortunately, her baby had to withdraw from it and she felt horribly guilty. I told her she was courageous to do what she was doing. Heroin is such a hard drug to withdraw from but she was able to do it because of the methadone. The baby is fine and thriving.

      • Natania

        Hi Diane, I actually seen a lot of women who was pregnant walking into the clinic also. I am happy they are getting help but I can only imagine what that poor little baby has to go through, its way better than being an addict on the streets though. Its just a shame we have something so terrible on our streets.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          I agree and have seen what the babies go through firsthand. But the alternative (their mom still hooked on heroin) is worse.

          • Natania

            I completely agree Diane. I would have to say I dont know if I would be able to do your job. You have a lot of courage and I really look up to people like you. Are you a pediatric nurse?

            • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

              I was a Labor/Delivery/Post Partum & Nursery nurse. I also worked in a Women’s Center where we did mammograms & breast biopsies. I’ve been on long term disability for 3 years. I wish I could do my job again but unfortunately, that’s not going to happen. I miss it so much!

              • Natania

                Hi Diane I am sure you put your time in so enjoy the days your off now.

                • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

                  Thanks, Natania! Soon I’ll have empty nest syndrome, too. My daughter isn’t moving out of state with us due to her new business. Now my son says that he may stay here for a little while so he can stay at his job and pay his car loan sand school loans. I offered to help him but he’s too proud. He’ll move in with his aunt & uncle. I’d say it’s gonna be quiet but not with my husband around! Lol

                  • Natania

                    DIane I just now seen this message, sorry I wouldve replied sooner. I am sure that is going to be so hard on you, I cant imagine, my daughter is 11. However maybe you and your husband can do some things that you have always wanted to. Like maybe golf, (its actually a lot of fun) or putt putt, maybe travel, or how about gardening, what about you two getting in a bowling league. I know it’s going to be hard but try to keep yourselves busy and maybe you wont think about it so much.

                    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

                      We’re planning to take those “last minute cruises” where they need to fill the empty rooms so you pay a lower price. Otherwise, we’ll just be relaxing. I think we both deserve it! Thanks for the support and suggestions. It’s appreciated!

  • Elmâgnîfïcô Epänîol

    situation come by chance

  • Nicole D. C

    I used to think sushi was the most disgusting thing. Raw fish really? There is so much more to it than that. I love sushi now. Even crave it!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Me too, Nicole! My husband swore he would never eat raw fish. We went to a Japanese restaurant last month where they gave us free appetizers. My husband loved them. Wasn’t he surprised to find out they were raw! LMBO!!!

  • ramadevi

    My biggest change of opinion about money and richness changed very strongly while I am growing. When I was young I used to think that if people has money they will be happy, no problems at all. But after I have seen and experienced that money can buy only some things in our lives not the happiness. Money can’t buy happiness, health and harmony between people. Same time we need money. I try to live very simple, I plan everything within my budget. I don’t overspend money. I don’t get disappointment when I see others have more money and richness. I give value for money because it is hard to earn money. Some people misunderstand me when I go for cheaper prices and think that I do not spend too much money. But in my opinion wearing or spending too much money doesn’t mean you have money. But I know myself very well, I always buy cheaper items like clothes, jewellery, handbags etc which everyone like them. So one should know how to be happy with less money. Money is not main tool for happiness.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Welcome to my world! I’m very cheap when it comes to myself, but not when it comes to my kids. The problem with money is that too many married couple’s fights are about money. I’m still trying to figure out what I’m supposed to stop spending money on since I don’t get manicures, don’t buy expensive clothes and don’t spend a lot to get my hair cut. LOL

      • ramadevi

        I understand that life is not easy. Happy family day.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          Thanks!

  • Lauriem1967

    I’ve always longed to live in the United States of America, specifically Florida or Hawaii. I always though it was “Land of the free”. Not long ago while I was in Hawaii, I was scared to death that it may be bombed and I wanted to go back home to Canada, where I felt safe. I don’t know how the local people live everyday feeling scared to death of being bombed.

    After 911, Kim Jong and Trump, I’ve changed my opinion, there’s no where else I’d rather be, I feel very safe right here at home!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Please don’t feel that way about the US. We don’t walk around worrying about a bomb going off. I think you may have a better chance of being struck by lightning than getting caught in a terrorist attack.

    • Deb

      I’m glad that you feel safe at home. I’m in the US and I feel as safe as anyone can in this world.

  • My biggest change of opinion was when I was after reading Upton Sinclair’s “The Jungle”…..I have been vegetarian for almost 40 yrs.

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    That’s great. I love happy endings!

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    Great answers, Aine! And I have the same problem with Cap’n Crunch!

  • Deanna

    My change of opinion is based on addiction. I have a sister who has 3 beautiful smart children. She decided to start using and eventually her kids got took. My mother now has full custody. My opinion of my sister was always bad. I never seen how she could choose drugs over her children. It had me so angry. Just recently while my sister was detoxing she opened up about so much. It turns out the drugs actually changed all her thinking. It would be easier to not feel ashamed in front of her kids so she takes a needle instead. She never wanted to give up on her kids but the drugs take over and it’s so hard to Ober power them. Her detox was horrible. She went to rehab but walked out 4 days later. I’m not sure that she will ever get better. But through our talks . I have learned that addiction is like kidnapping. It has her locked beind a door and she can’t find a key to yet out. Even though she wants out so bad.. she just has to find that key so she can get out and get better.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Many people self-medicate by using opioids, when they probably need antidepressants and cognitive therapy instead. Withdrawal from opioids is one of the hardest things to go through physically and emotionally. Deanna, I hope your sister finds her “key” soon.

      • Deanna

        Thank you so much. I pray she does also.

  • Deanna

    Change of opinion is on communities. I used to think that communities were weak. So many times we say our small communities are full of rumor filled people, drugs, drunks, etc. However I have personally seen that if a tragedy happen then your community will be first there to support you and come together for you. They have their quirks. But if you need them they never fell

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      So true, Deanna!

  • My biggest change or opinion would have to be to not be in love with someone anymore. We have all been there. One minute you are madly in love, the next for whatever reason you are not.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Unfortunately, it takes me longer to fall out of love. I think I needed to have an anvil dropped on me to fall out of love when I was younger. LOL!

  • Danna

    I think pregnancy has been the biggest change of opinion for me. I went through so much with my second pregnancy it changed my whole perception of labor and delivery and that it won’t always be as easy and every kid will be different.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      That’s so true, Danna.

  • Carol Miller

    Great answer, Aine

  • Sylvia

    As a younger woman I thought the most insightful and intelligent people were my peers. As I moved along life’s path I realized that our older generations possess wisdom and creativity that can’t be facilitated through social media or pop culture. My fear is that as we lose this older generation their common sense, work ethic and family values will dissipate as a technology crazed society dominates.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I agree. My kids say they can multitask but we asked my daughter to watch a movie with us and she spent most of the time using her smart phone. She wasn’t really paying attention to the movie.

  • ewpfaffly

    I changed my opinion on Climate change. When they first started talking about global warming I was very skeptical but over the years since this became an issue I came to believe in Climate change. Global warming as a catch phrase was pretty narrowly defined but Climate change is much more accurate because in some area’s it has gotten colder while others have warmed up. The retreat of the glaciers is something tangible that I could see with my own eyes, not to mention the lack of winter which I have been experiencing here in the mid-west.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I think I saw it myself in Alaska. I know I’ve seen it on TV. Climate change is a more accurate term because too many people were associating global warming with weather.

  • Chrystal Ozovek

    The choice to be VEGAN! I have not decided to be vegan because I am an animal lover or because of animal cruelty or animal rights. My decision is completely based on ridding my body of the toxic impurities that come from the injections and growth hormones and other drugs that farmers give their cattle, chickens and other livestock. AND, I feel so good! I’m not completely 100% strict with my Vegan ways i occasionally enjoy some ice cream and cheese or a nice juicy steak, but I feel best when I stick to a Vegan lifestyle. I guess I would be called a “flexitarian”

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Nothing wrong with that. Do you have organic food available to you? I don’t know too much about it but maybe the livestock isn’t raised with antibiotics or hormones.

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    Sounds nice. Enjoy! And congrats!!!

  • Brian Vaughn

    My opinion over condiments has changed. I used to like ketchup on my hot dogs. I used to like ketchup all over my fries. Now I put mustard on hot dogs and don’t eat fries with ketchup. Things change as you get older

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I stopped using ketchup on my fries as well, and I use a little mustard on my hot dog, which I didn’t used to do. Have you ever had sauerkraut on your hot dogs? I love it!

      • Deb

        I love sauerkraut on my hotdog. In fact, I love eating it right out of the can.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          LMAO. I used to do that with Fluff. Do you remember marshmallow Fluff?

          • Deb

            Yes, Good stuff…..that Fluff !

            • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

              LMBO. Sure is!

  • Theresa Holly

    I worked for a local retail chain and I thought I had a good job and management was fair .. but I fell going into work one day and no one would take me to doctor my sister came from home to do that. Then week later I had go int work even though I had cast on my wrist was told i lost my job of over 20 plus years. So my opinion has change about this store–never shop or buy anything again from that store.

    • Deb

      That is so unfair. Maybe the Labor Board would like to hear that one.

      • Theresa Holly

        I tried to fight it but I lost my case I even had to fight for my unemployment but that I won after i appealed

  • stef

    A few years ago I ran out of a subject in college because I was angry with the teacher because he did not know how to teach it but 30 minutes later I found out that he quit and found another teacher to give the class so I changed my feeling about him because even though he did not know how to teach the subject he was trying to find out someone who could do it. I felt really bad about what I did because I had to pay for the inscription of the subject and afer I quit I had to pay for the cancellation and all the friends that stayed; they pass but I did not. 🙁

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I’m sure you’re older and wiser now, Stef.

      • stef

        I really am!

  • Cecilia

    Trust is a huge issue for me. Having been in an abusive relationship in the past, trusting again was very hard. I ended up in another relationship and put my trust out there again, and over 20 years later, it was broken. I have forgiven once again, but I won/t ever trust 100% again. I have learned that the only person I can really rely on is myself, and that I can/t put my trust in others like I used to.

    • Deb

      Trust is like breaking an eggshell and trying to put it back together. You can glue it, but there’s always a few pieces missing.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        You’re a philosopher! LOL! But you’re right, Deb.

        • Deb

          LMBO

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      There are very few people I trust, but the ones I do, I would trust with my life.

  • Keith

    Years ago, my grandma had some eye problems out of the blue. She went to several doctors, and couldn’t find a reason why she was losing her vision. In the meantime, I used to make fun of her for being such a ‘jesus freak’. She volunteered for the church, she taught, did bible studies, took in animals galore, and was in church multiple times a week. We used to go to bingo every Tuesday night, and anytime she would win, she even took out her 10%+ to be donated to the church. I didn’t quite understand it, I thought I’d never give my money away like that, and I wouldn’t (or couldn’t) be in church as much as she was/is. Eventually her eye-sight went to where she could see like she was looking through a straw, and then was almost nothing. One night we had a conversation about the lord, and she explained that it’s god’s will & he’ll make it better one day. I told her to find other doctors and forget about church for a couple of months. Well, needless to say, she continued to go to church, and slowly her eye-sight started to come back. Doctors, family members, and everyone else couldn’t believe it. When the doctor’s had told us they have no explanation why she lost her sight (and more importantly, how & why she was able to get her sight back). After all this had happened, I became more religious & my opinion about an afterlife/god/a higher power completely changed. I can’t make any claims or promises but something happened & god willing, she’ll continue to have her eyesight.

    • Deb

      I’m glad that you and your grandma saw the Light.

      • Keith

        Thanks Deb! This happened about 13 years ago. Regardless of what caused her eyesight to come back, she got me to go to church, lol. I don’t go to church often, but have been religious ever since.

  • Shannik Diamond

    My biggest change, was i used going to school to start my own business , instead of working for another company. I also learned that self education can sometimes be better than traditional learning.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Mostly true but it depends on the profession. I was a medical laboratory manager and later a systems analyst. I didn’t go to school for these, but learned on the job. However, I could never have become an RN without nursing school. People in the field of medicine do have an advantage if they then choose to attend nursing school, though.

      • Shannik Diamond

        your right, some folks do have to maintain it for their profession, i have 6 Family members who are registered nurses, yet at least 5 of them listen to me, and they also started other business and incorporated their field in..hence wellness counselors and fitness instructors..i spent 14 years in higher learning with bachelors in business, while heading to my master is when i learned operating a business comes by experience alot of things i learned which was crucial didnt come from class, it came from other business owners.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          My father had his own businesses. He grew up poor so rather than finishing high school, he went to work to support his mom. Yet, he was a very intelligent, well-informed person and ran his businesses well.

  • Lynn King McKinney

    Realizing that few things in real life are Black or White. Shades of grey surround us all and should be taken into account before we judge or comment on situations which we might not fully understand.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I agree, Lynn. I also believe you can not judge some of the actions of others until you’ve been in their shoes.

  • David Hearst

    I’d have to say my opinion of the National Free HealthCare System in Canada. In Ontario it’s OHIP, Quebec it’s QHip, etc. Ontario Health Insurance Plan, Quebec Health Insurance Plan and so forth for all Provinces and Territories. Our once model for the rest of the world is broken and needs fixing now! I came down with identical symptoms of a Neurological disorder from 5 years previous. Dealing with our Emergency Dept. I was turned away 4 days in a row with no treatment or referral to a specialist, not even my own Neurologist. Found out that the Emerg. Depts. all across Canada are now called Acute Care Centres and if it’s not an identifiable physical injury then there’s nothing they will do if the ER doctor feels your there for other reasons. They are not instructed to know how to diagnose what is a mental illness and so do nothing about it. Even though I’m telling them otherwise I was dismissed as a wandering addict looking for the keys to the pill cabinet. This all began in middle Dec 2016 and in early Jan 2017 had to involve my MPP, Member of Provincial Parliament, the elected governing party for Ontario. With her help my Neurologist was finally notified and since I’ve been diagnosed with exactly the same condition as before but with added problems. My Petuitary Gland Tumor has returned with a vengeance, an impossibility but nevertheless real and so we’ve entered the unknown. Next is my Thyroid Gland is infected with cancer. Looking at 2 operations in next 3-4 weeks and then hopefully full recovery. Also, my Central Nervous System is out of whack but we’ll get to it next and see what’s up. My heart meanwhile is taking a beating especially since I have a stent from heart attack only 20 months ago and weight loss at a continuing dangerous pace and they don’t know why yet. I’ve gone from 150 pounds to 85-90 pounds in 2 months. If listened to maybe all of this would’ve been treated then instead of losing 1 month and now it may or may not be too late. Common sense would dictate that when dealing with the unknown consult a specialist. I was shown no understanding or compassion and this is dead wrong. The tricky thing is that my vitals remained within set parameters which is a known Major First Symptom and even though they understood at least this they still didn’t act upon it. Therefore my once good and positive opinion is now very very Negative and I’ve lost all faith with the way things have deteriorated. I’m facing the hardest and uncertain time in my life and just maybe some of this could’ve been avoided with proper care. Our system has to be fixed immediately or so many others are doomed. I’m not alone in this cause since our PM Justin Trudeau heard more from people all across this country on his recent cross country tour . Now let’s see what happens if anything. I don’t know where this sits on the list of priorities that need fixing so have to wait and see. Until then I live one day at a time and cherish every day upon waking.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I’m so sorry to hear this, David. I think we may have talked about our healthcare systems recently but I had no idea you were going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. We have Canadians who also have a second home here. They tell us they have their heart surgery here because of the long waiting list in Canada. I am praying your surgeries go well. You’ll be on my mind from now on. Take care, David!

      • David Hearst

        Thanks so very much and yes it was I you were talking to before but this question was pertinent to me..I go one day at a time now..best way.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          Do what you feel you must but I, and I’m sure others here, are pulling for you. Have your surgeries and GET BETTER!!!

          • David Hearst

            Thank you.

    • Deb

      David, you are in my prayers. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.

  • ramadevi

    I sent my photo to the link “Say cheese for cash”. If you did not get it, I will try again. Thanks.

  • kandeels

    That working from home would be easy and convenient for the kids. Wow, as long as they are not home, it works, but when they are here, I can’t even do a fraction of my goals!! Those days, I think working elsewhere would be best!!

  • Timothy Mccollum

    Mine was Obama, thought he was going to change things, he did nothing but make people hate more than ever so disappointed.

  • Rebecca

    Charmin to Cottonelle