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  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    My husband (then boyfriend) felt guilty that their kids didn’t have their father living at home with them so shortly before Christmas (about 33 years ago), he left me and tried getting back together with his ex-wife. It literally made me physically ill. I couldn’t eat, along with other symptoms of a”broken heart”. I lost about 15 pounds in two weeks. That lasted a whole two weeks, and then he was back. I think it’s worse for kids when their parents fight in front of them. It only happened to me once in my life. My parents didn’t talk to each other for three days and it scared the heck out of me and my siblings. For a child to see that every day is not a good thing. My husband and I have been married for almost 31 years now. And his ex-wife got remarried two weeks after our wedding and is still with her husband. I guess his first marriage was not meant to be.

    • Carol Miller

      Diane, I am so sorry you had to go through that. Your husband is very lucky to have you. Another wife might not have taken him back. I am sure he knows how fortunate he is now.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        If I had had more self-confidence when I was in my twenties, he would not have been allowed back. Like I always say, no good deed goes unpunished.

    • Deb

      When we’re young and in love our hearts are wide open. I’m glad that it worked out for you, but sorry that you had to experience that hurt.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        Thanks, Deb. My situation is probably mild compared to some others, so I really shouldn’t complain.

        • Deb

          I don’t think that you are complaining. You’re just being open about something that hurt you. 🙂

          • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

            Thanks, Deb. That makes me feel a little better.

    • Lynn

      Diane, I must admit I was really shocked when I read your post until I read your reply to Carol. You have always come across as such a strong, self-assured woman that I couldn’t imagine you allowing him to come back, then seeing you were in your twenties it makes so much more sense. I’m so happy to hear that he smartened up and realized what a fabulous woman you are and you have been able to work past that and make it work. If I were in your shoes, I would remind him EVERY day how incredibly lucky he is!!

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        In my “naive” twenties, I accepted the excuse that he felt guilty about his kids. I turned out so much better for those kids that he didn’t stay. I’m sure they saw fights I would never want to see my parents have.

  • Paul Clément

    The hardest rejection I have ever faced is my divorce. At that time I was devastated and saw my whole world crumbling. With two young boys and a failed marriage, I really did not know what to do or where to turn. Essentially, I felt as though I had failed as a man and that life could not take me any lower. Fortunately and in the long run, better times prevailed and my life so far has turned out very well, thank God.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I’m glad it turned around for you. Sometimes we get lucky. Sometimes we make our own luck. I have a feeling you did the latter so GOOD FOR YOU!!!

      • Paul Clément

        Good guess. And thanks.

    • Deb

      Paul, you did have a hard time. I’m so glad that you and your kids made it through, and that you’ve worked so hard to give them, and yourself a rewarding life.

      • Paul Clément

        Thanks Deb.

  • edeliz

    I interviewed for what I considered to be my dream job. Didn’t get it, it crushed me as I felt (and still feel), it would’ve been a perfect fit. I was told by another person, the boss had already chosen the person, they just went through the motions so as not to raise suspicions of favoritism.

    • Deb

      That’s a mean thing to do to someone. Get their hopes up and then smash them. I hope that you get a better “dream” job and hope that it pays more than that one!!

  • Brian Vaughn

    Getting accepted into my #1 college choice, but not being able to go because of funds.

    • Deb

      That was a hard break!! So sorry that you didn’t get to go.

    • Lynn

      I can relate Brian. My daughter wants to be a genetic counselor and recently finished her Bachelor degree in biology at a well-renowned local university. Unfortunately there are only 3 universities in Canada that offer the Master’s degree in that field, all of which are located from 1000km to 5000km (sorry, don’t know how many miles that converts into) and each university has 6 openings a year. She visited the admissions office at each one only to find out she had been placed on the waiting list. She called the University of British Columbia, her first choice, to get advice on what she could do to improve her chances for admission the next year and they actually told her that she had been accepted but they had arbitrary decided that she couldn’t afford to attend even though she had a line of credit in place!!

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    Would anyone be willing to co-sign for you? We just did that last Sunday for my son when we picked up his new (but slightly used) car.

  • Carol Miller

    My hardest rejection was when I was pregnant with my second child and found out my husband was having a long term affair. When I opened my Strawbridge’s bill there were all these feminine items I had never purchased. Here, my ex-husband went to Strawbridge’s, showed his driver’s license and charged on my account, which was only in my name. (Would never happen today). Anyway, that was my wake up call. The woman who was involved had been to my home many times, as she worked with my husband. As difficult as it was, it was the wake up call I needed. I shed an ocean of tears as I packed up my newborn and 18 month old. Looking back, I know God wanted me out of that marriage. I had a much better life and so did my children. As an aside my ex-husband remarried and got divorced two more times.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Oh, Carol. I’m so sorry! I knew you were divorced but your husband was a real, well, I don’t want to use the words here but I’m sure you get what I’m thinking. How could anyone do that to someone else and be able to sleep at night? Your kids are very lucky to have you. I hope they know that.

      • Carol Miller

        Thank you, Diane. If you read my reply to Deb you will have a more accurate picture of him.

    • Deb

      Carol, you must have been heartbroken!!! I’m so sorry that he treated you like that. Your strength comes from adversity. Your kids are blessed to have you!! So, this is the guy that you have to spend your birthday and Christmas with? I wish your daughter could understand how hard that is for you. But, hats off to you for enduring his presence for the sake of your kids.

      • Carol Miller

        Thank you, Deb for your kind words. I was only married 3 years but it felt like a lot longer. My ex-husband, in my opinion, is a sociopath. No conscience about anything he ever did, whether it was cheating on his taxes, refusing to pay child support, refusing to give a dime toward college , cheating on his other two wives. The list is endless. The only reason I tolerate him at Christmas is because of my older daughter. My ex-husband is in terrible health and has absolutely nowhere to go. I tried to raise my girls to e good Christians. To be honest with you, I am just soooo glad I got away from him that he is like an inanimate object to me. I actually feel sorry for him. Thank you, again, Deb for your kind thoughts.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          I get it now, Carol. The positive: it was only three years. The negative: it was three whole years with two babies to take care of, too. I love how you think of him now. Why should a madman make you still feel hurt and uncomfortable? What you do for your daughters at Christmas goes above and beyond. But that’s just the kind of person you are.

        • Lynn King McKinney

          Your children are so very fortunate you’re their Mother and that you had the strength to face the world as a single parent giving them an up bringing of values, a true role-model.

          • Carol Miller

            Thank you, Lynn.

    • Aine

      I don’t know where you get your strength.
      I can empathize , but in my case I was the child and my stepfather was the habitual cheater .
      I LOATHE cheaters.
      He didn’t deserve you , and he obviously continued to show himself for what he was based on your other comment that he cheated on his other wives.
      The more you share Carol, the more I respect and admire you for your decency and strength.

      • Carol Miller

        Thank you, Aine. No one has ever praised me for what I did. I have beaten myself up many times for marrying him. Today, I am just so happy I did what I had to do. It took me 4 years to get a divorce. I also have a church annulment to the marriage. I vowed I would never marry again and I am glad I didn’t. Thank you again for your great kindness.

  • Nicole D. C

    Not getting the job I wanted after graduation.

    • Deb

      Sorry. I suppose that it just wasn’t the right one. I hope that you find the perfect job for you!

      • Nicole D. C

        Thanks so much Deb.
        It’s frustrating when they say, “You are over qualified, with that degree. You wouldn’t be happy here.”
        Then why did I apply????

  • Ken Grant

    A woman who I really cared deeply about … but sadly she was looking elsewhere.

    • Deb

      So sorry. I hope that you find the one that only has eyes for you!!

  • Desi Almodobar

    The hardest rejection was when my husband cheated on me after 15 years of marriage and said he never had feeling for me still hard to talk about it but life goes on but the heart never heals and you never trust again

    • Deb

      So sorry!! I don’t know if it helps, but I think he did have feelings for you, he was just trying to cover his guilt by putting the blame on you. Life does go on, even when you hurt so bad that you don’t think that you can stand the pain. Your heart will heal over time. There are trustworthy people out there. I’m hoping that you meet the one meant for you, and you can live a happy life.

  • Drea Nivea Rahming

    Having a former Intended Parent tell me that she never wanted me to carry her child because I was black she wanted a Caucasian woman. I wasn’t her first choice and that she only did it because the RE recommended me. I was hurt and still am just a little bit I was already five months pregnant

    • Deb

      So sorry!! What a hateful and racist way of thinking. I hope that everything turned out well for the baby.

      • Drea Nivea Rahming

        Yes it did she’s a bouncing 3 tear old I have no contact with her but a few posts on social media. Thank you

  • dottie p

    for years between 1987 and 1995 we (my ex and I) tried artificially inseminating and every month nope. in 95 we decided that was it. but a couple years later and after a gall bladder surgery. we decided once more from Oct to Dec of that year and if it didn’t work, then that was it we would be childless. so in October off we went. and guess what it worked the first time. i found out on my 33rd birthday i was pregnant. and she was due 2 weeks after his birthday in july. as i told my sister if i would have known all it would have taken to have a baby was to get my gall bladder out i would have done it years ago. now my baby is having her first baby and it due 3 weeks after her birthday. and she found out on my 53 birthday she was pregnant.but the rejections of not having a baby or getting pregnant from 87-95 every month i cried. and cried and cried. but i love happy endings

    • Deb

      I’m sure that was a heartbreaking time in your life. But, now you’re going to be a grandma!! How awesome is that!!!!

    • Lynn

      I so appreciate your sadness and despair. I had four miscarriages, that I know of, before I finally was able to carry my daughter to term.

  • Sue W.

    My hardest rejection was when I worked my butt off for a promotion at work and the job was given to a “younger” more qualified person….and I had to answer to them until I left the job for bigger and better things.

    • Deb

      “Bigger and better” sounds so much more qualified!!!

      • Sue W.

        It was the best thing to happen that’s for sure!

  • MT

    Being told I will never have a happy full life because I am not normal.

    • Deb

      What a cruel thing to say to someone!! I haven’t figured out what “normal” is. Evidently, the person that said that to you isn’t normal. My two grandsons aren’t what some would call “normal”, but they both are happy, healthy, and precious. Shame on whoever told you that!!!

      • Lynn

        Ditto to Deb’s comment. Whomever said such a cruel thing to you definitely has issues of their own. I just hope that you don’t take that comment to heart. Every person has value and has a way to contribute to society. Your life is what you want it to be!! Don’t define it by some a..hole’s comment to you. They probably feel that way about their self and just projected it on you.

  • Rebecca lee

    My hardest rejection came when I began tracing my biological father at the age of 16. After months of searching I finally tracked him down only to discover that he was now married with a new family and basically just didn’t want to know me. It really affected me and was a real knock to my self confidence. However now, 20 years later I’ve finally started to realize that it’s his loss not mine and that although any man can be a parent it takes a special sort of man to be a father.

    • Deb

      I’m glad that you are finally putting the blame on him instead of yourself. I know the pain of parental rejection. It affects your whole life in one way or another.

  • Sylvia

    At 53 I’ve had plenty of rejections; jobs, credit, boyfriends, friends and even a cat that I rescued but I see each rejection as a small gift. Every rejection gives me pause to reflect how I can do better or be stronger and I grow just a bit as a person. Rejection is a part of life that is not pleasant but it can be empowering.

    • Lynn

      Wow Sylvia, that is so beautiful and inspiring to my spirit, which is very difficult to reach these past few years. You actually have made me cry.

      • Sylvia

        Thanks Lynn keep positive and know you’re much stronger than you think.

    • Deb

      Sylvia, you have a good outlook on life. My thoughts are not as optimistic as yours. I don’t look at rejection as a gift. I suppose it depends on the kind of rejection. Some forms of rejection can have devastating consequences. I’m glad that you have been empowered. I’ve just had to learn to deal and trust God to get me through.

      • Sylvia

        You are so right Deb to trust God to get us through the bad times; I think it is the voice of God that propels me towards empowerment.

    • Carol Miller

      Very wise thoughts, Sylvia.

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    That’s what moms are for!

  • Christy

    Wayyyyy back in the day when girls would wear a boy’s class ring, I had been given one to wear by my boyfriend who attended a different high school than I. He asked for it back one day and said he wanted to get something on it fixed and then I would get it back. No problem. The next night I went to dinner with my parents and my dad’s boss and his wife. The waitress had on a “familiar” looking ring and I commented on it. She just got it that day from her boyfriend. Oh? My boyfriend also goes to that school… what’s your boyfriend’s name? Any guesses? Yep…. the same as my boyfriend’s name. I did what any 16 year old drama queen would do during an important event with important people… I flipped out. It was bad. My mom and I ended up leaving and going home and letting my dad continue the meal. 36 years later and I can still recall every detail of that night…. and the phone call that happened later that night!!

    • Deb

      Young love…..Oh, the drama of it all. It sure does hurt at the time.

  • Mark Hall

    At about the age of 9, I was rejected by my school choir, because and I quote my teacher here, ‘I was tone deaf and couldn’t hold a tune with Asbetos gloves’. as he told my Mum, well within my hearing. It’s always stuck with me, not least because in my head I have an amazing voice and love to sing.

    • Deb

      If you love to sing….sing on!!!!

  • Deb

    My parents divorced when my brother was 7 and I was 2. As long as I can remember I loved my biological dad with all my heart. For a few years we would see him maybe once a year. He and my stepmother moved a lot and I never knew where they were. I would try to find him through my stepmother’s relatives. Occasionally, I would find him and talk to him on the phone. When I was 10, I went to California and stayed with them for 6 weeks. A really bad thing happened when I was with them and I was so glad to get back to my grandparents. That was the longest 6 months of my life. I didn’t see him again until I was 21. That was the last time that I ever saw him. A few years later my brother called him and “good ol’ dad” told him that he didn’t have any kids and just pretend that he was dead. Neither of us ever saw, or heard from him again. That’s been over 40 years ago and he probably is dead now, since he would be around 85 years old. His treatment of us was a hard rejection that neither of us ever truly got over.

    I’m glad that he and my mother got a divorce. I would have had a much more traumatic childhood if she had stayed. She did remarry and my stepdad was the finest man that I ever knew. Without him, I would have never known what a “real” dad was.

    • Lynn

      So sorry to hear how horrible your father was to you and your brother. Divorce is always so rough on entire families and it’s so prevalent these days. You are very lucky that your mother was able to remarry a great guy to step up to the plate and show you what to look for in a “real” man and father.

      • Deb

        Thank you, Lynn. Yep, I was one lucky little girl to have the honor of being my stepdad’s daughter.

    • Carol Miller

      Deb, I just read your answer in the winners’blog. I am sooo touched that you are such a strong and forgiving person. Your father didn’t deserve either you or your brother. As sad as it is to say, you were probably better off without him. I am close to tears reading your story. I am also sorry you had to spend 6 weeks with him. I am shuddering to think of it. You are an amazing person. Along with Aine, the best writer on this blog. Witty, smart, extremely insightful, knowledgeable about so many fields. Your father, obviously, did not have any of these qualities because he didn’t appreciate what was right in front of his eyes.

      • Deb

        Thank you so much, Carol. In my opinion you and Aine are amazing writers. I look forward to your answers every day. It makes me happy that you think that I’m a good writer.

        I KNOW that we were better off without him. Our lives would have been so bad with him. It’s hard to understand when your little that your dad is such an evil man. Now, that I’ve experienced life, I just accept it for what it is. I hope that he found Jesus, but I’ll never know.

  • Keith

    Growing up as an only child & being gay, I developed this obsession with if I become the best, then maybe my parents (more specifically, my mother) would love me. When I came out, she became a different person. She’d drink, call me & literally call me every name in the book. She’d do this for hours on end, but because I wanted her to show me an ounce of respect/love, I indulged her ignorant phone calls. Throughout school (as some of you may know from other posts) I graduated Valedictorian & I thought finally, this is it, this will be the time things change. My mother came just as I was giving my speech, and afterwards was on her way to South Carolina (I’m in PA). Along the way, she was drinking and hit a lady head on; killing her instantly & insuring my mom would be not only confined to a wheel chair, but also now a jail cell. (15 years; still going). Needless to say, I have still yet to get the love I needed from her, but I still communicate with her & continue to try. It’s a rejection I continually deal with, but have learned there’s more people’s love then just a mothers.

    • Deb

      My dear Keith, I am so sorry. My son is also gay. I can’t imagine the pain that her rejection caused you. I’m proud of you for still communicating with her even though it must be so hard. You have a loving heart. I’m sorry that your mother doesn’t.

      • Keith

        Thanks Deb, you always have the kindest words! So glad you’re understanding with your son!

    • Lynn

      I’m sure that it’s difficult for any parent to learn their child is gay, knowing that it will likely make the child’s life more difficult, but a mother’s love should be unconditional. Luckily today’s society is becoming more tolerant with people who have a different sexual orientation. I’m so sorry for the pain of rejection from your mother and I’m sure you will meet many people who will love you; although I realize it’s not quite the same. I wish all the best that life has to offer.

  • Erin Estilette

    When I was broke, and every place I applied for a job turned me down because I had no experience. Well, where was I to get experience if nobody would give me that first chance?

    • Deb

      I think a lot of people ask that question. It’s just finding the right person that will give you a chance. I hope that you find it!!

    • Lynn

      Most young people, or woman trying to enter the work-force after raising their families, have to overcome this hurdle. I believe that the most important thing to do is to go to the workplace with confidence, head high and explain that although you lack practical experience tell them all the qualities you can bring to the position, such as being a intelligent, a quick learner with the desire to learn, well organized etc and if they give you the opportunity to prove yourself, that you would be willing to work on a trial basis for the first one to three months. Don’t give them the time for the trial period, pick a time in your head and tell them that number I.e. say a one month trial and if they hmm or has offer two months. I hope this is of some help for you. Good luck.☺

  • Gbemmy Bassy Sholaru

    Being failed by a lectural because am black

    • Deb

      How unfair and racist. So sorry!

      • Gbemmy Bassy Sholaru

        That’s life.. thank you

  • Julie Dascoli-Yanop

    I think all rejection is equally hard. Nobody likes being rejected. It feels crummy. But if I had to pick one instance, I would say the time we got rejected when applying for the house of our dreams. Little did we know at that time what God had planned for us and it all worked out for the best

    • Deb

      Isn’t it funny how we think we have it all figured out? …..then God gives us something that we never even dreamed about.

  • Kaitlyn Jenkins

    One of the worst rejections I had was when I was re-auditioning for my dance position at Disneyland and I was told I was too heavy to return after 2 years of work with them. Mind you at the time I was 5’6″ and only 138 pounds (most of which was muscle mass). I was devastated. It launched me into my Eating disorder that after 2 years am just now recovering from and speaking out about.

    • Deb

      So sorry. That must have been devastating. Thanks for speaking out!! There are way too many young girls trying to have the “perfect” body. Problem is….there is no “perfect” body.

    • Lynn

      I never realized that Disney, of all places, was so discriminative! That’s so horrible Kaitlyn. I’m so sorry this led you into such a tail-spin but am happy to hear that you have been able to work your way back up. Speaking out about your eating disorder could actually help your self-esteem if you are able to talk to other women, especially young women, get through this terrible disorder. If this is something you would be interested in doing, your local mental health organization would be able to help you do this.

  • Leslie Anne Soloman

    The hardest rejection I have ever faced to date is the death of my second sons fiance. Even though the illness she suffered with was considered a terminal one, I prayed and believed that GOD would heal her completely, after all nothing is impossible with GOD. Sadly she did indeed die but through the years I have truly come to recognize that while GOD does answer prayer, He answers perfectly even while we may not understand His answers. We must have faith in our heavenly Father.

    • Deb

      Wise words. His ways are not our ways. His thoughts are not our thoughts. Someday, we will understand.

      • Leslie Anne Soloman

        Yes I know but it was a real let down, not that GOD has to answer to me, I certainly have no right to question Him, but I felt like the wind had been knocked out of me. Perhaps though it was what I needed. It helps me to ascend higher with GOD.

        • Deb

          I know what you mean. I have been praying for something for 40 years and it seems that God just doesn’t answer. I don’t understand. I know that He hears, that He loves His children, and that nothing is impossible for Him. So, I will wait until He shows me what His perfect plan is. Even if what I pray for isn’t His will, He is still full of mercy and love.

  • 77giggles

    My biggest rejection (and hardest to get over) is my daughter alienating herself from me. She has these wild stories and constantly argues with me. Her brothers, father and I have no clue why she continues to attack me verbally (for about 10 yrs now). We just had a great Christmas week, and then New Years eve she sent me 44 texts attacking me all over again. When I say she’s bi-polar, she gets a death look in her eyes and screams ‘I AM NOT!!’…. It took me about 2 years of tears to come to grips with her psycho attitude, but now we just keep quiet to keep the peace..

    • Deb

      Unfortunately, I know exactly how you feel. One day at a time.:)

      • 77giggles

        Thank you… yep, all I can do is pray for her and act civil when I see her… I will never jeopardize access to my grandson.

  • Deb

    You might have dodged a bullet on that one. Credit cards are sometimes hard to control and you get into more trouble than you can get out of. Lol

  • Timothy Mccollum

    The rejection I got from my first girlfriend she didn’t want to get serious with me, yet she did with my best friend hurts…

    • Deb

      That’s a real kick in the teeth. Some best friend!!

  • jock

    When you are a new graduate from the university full of confidence and knowledge you think job application is easy. No it isn’t. My first job applications came with rejections. It was more than worse because it pierced my core. I felt that rejection is too much Ive gone to obscurity then ended to self destruction. Alcohol and similar vices ruled me for over a year. Full stop I thought Im a nobody and useless. Thankfully, my support group never gave up on me I was able to get back and face life head on.

    • Deb

      Good for you, Jock. I’m sorry that you felt that way. I’m glad that you overcame those negative thoughts and behaviors. Welcome back!!

  • DM

    After losing my only child at age 16, many family members turned their backs once, not understanding how to deal with me I suppose. They are no longer in m life but the hurt remains.

    • Deb

      I’m so sorry. You’ve experienced what no parent should have to endure.

  • Gbemmy Bassy Sholaru

    Being failed by a lecturer be a cause am black, she said it to my face that I will repeat her course.

  • Brenda D

    The most devastating rejection I had to face was not being admitted to a professional ballet school full time, because my legs were less than an inch short of the requirements. I know it doesn’t sound like a big deal, and it isn’t any more, but at the time, ballet was my world, and even though I continued to study, it was not as a full-time student at the school.

    • Deb

      It may not be a big deal to some, but at the time it was a big deal to you. I’m sorry that you couldn’t fulfill that dream.

      • Brenda D

        Thank you for your kind words, Deb. It turned out to be a blessing in disguise, because I got to do so much more than just ballet. It is such a strict lifestyle.

  • Judy Burba McGarvey

    I married young at the age of nineteen. After I helped put him through college, he left for another woman. I stayed single for quite a while, but at 27 I met a divorced minister. We fell in love and married. I had a son by him and we made a great team. He pastored the church while I taught Sunday School and sang in the choir. My career was with the Postal Service. After our son was grown and out of school, my husband wanted to take a pastorate in another state. Reluctantly, I pulled up stakes and moved away from my family, friends and co-workers and transferred to accommodate him. A year after moving, he began an affair and left. I was nearly destroyed. I couldn’t believe a minister would ever do that. I packed up and transferred back to my hometown to heal. Within six months, he developed cancer and died eight months later. He never reconciled with our son.

    • Lynn

      It sounds like God let him know that He couldn’t believe one of His ministers would do that either. I’m sorry he turned out to be such a jerk to you and your son and that your life has turned out better.

      • Judy Burba McGarvey

        My son and I are very close and I’m glad to be living in the same city with him and the rest of the family.

    • Deb

      Judy, that is heartbreaking for you and your son. I’m sorry that he talked the talk, but didn’t walk the walk. I’m glad that you’re back home.

  • Katelyn

    My hardest rejection was going for my dream course to start up my life. Then being rejected yet I dedicated myself to school achieveing straight A’s with the highest avarge in my grade 12 class.

    • Deb

      Straight A’s!!!! That is really something to be proud of. Great job!!

  • Noel Stewart

    Rejection in my case occurred when my Mom’s Last Will and Testament was read…my siblings were unkind enough to pressure Mom in her last illness into leaving me out of the Will. Looking back now, I can see the DURESS that was used by my sibling’s on my Mom by telling her that she would not be cared for unless…she did as told. Unfortunately this story is true and is an example of what can happen to you. BEWARE!

    • Deb

      Shame on them!!!! That is so wrong! My Mom said she was thinking about taking my step sister out of her will. I told her..NO WAY!! My stepdad would have never done that to us!!! That is just evil.

  • Sheila Mason

    The hardest rejection I had was when my daughter was born. For the first week we bonded really well but then after that she just kept pushing me away, I went to the doctor cuz I thought I was causing the problem and all I was told is some babies are like that. She just kept pushing me away. Today she is 40 years old and she is still rejecting me and I have no idea why. Boy does it hurt though.

    • Deb

      Sheila, my heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry for your pain.

      • Sheila Mason

        Thanks. I have sort of learned to live with it.

    • Lynn

      Oh Sheila, I cannot imagine the pain you have been in for the past forty years. That has to be one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. As a mother I can’t comprehend the pain of that rejection.

    • Christina White

      I feel your pain. I have a similar situation. I have remind myself that God loves me no matter what. Sometimes I feel the warmth of His love. I have felt at times that my heart would burst with the pain. I asked for prayer at church. My church family gathered around me without judging me. One lady came over later and talked. She told me to forgive as God forgives. I did that and this week has been easier. I not telling you to do this. My first reaction was why,. I began thinking, I realized I was still angry at my oldest DAUGHTER who committed suicide 5 years ago.

      • Deb

        Christina, I am so sorry that you have had so much pain. I have heard that anger sometimes is a part of grieving. I pray that you will find comfort and peace.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        I’m so sorry, Christina. I didn’t know anything about that when I made my other comments to you. That complicates things. I can’t even imagine losing a child. That sounds like the hardest thing in the world to deal with. I think I would just be curled up in my bed for awhile. Hang in, Christina.

        • CHISTINA w.

          Thank you there is nothing to be sorry for. I appreciate your kindness. You never get over, but like amputation you adapt.

      • Sheila Mason

        Oh my. Christinia no one should have to go through that. Reading your comment makes my comment not seem so bad. You are so brave.

        • CHISTINA w.

          I do not know your xituation. There is some very interesting research. on bonding I found it so., however in your case I was depressed when I learned about the domino affect. I realize I can not change what happen, but begin a new chapter in my life. It led me to write a book on this. I know I have God’s love and he will change what needs to changed.

  • Deb

    So sorry!! You and your kids are much better off without that kind of man.

  • Deb

    Hahahahaha!! You got me!!

  • Sowmya

    I was working in a Company as an Administrative Assistant on temporary basis for nearly 10 years in Melbourne. This happened in 2007 when the company had a vacancy for a permanent position and I
    was the senior-most person to be eligible for that position. The boss was always happy with my performance and I was considered as one of the hard-working worker. Based on these facts, my colleagues including me, expected that I will be the 1st choice for this position. But to our surprise the boss selected another Asian girl who had only couple of months experience and who couldn’t even talk proper English. It came as a great shock and disappointment for me. My colleagues went and questioned the boss for his decision. He showed his inability to help in this matter as the higher officials were putting pressure on him in favour of the other girl. That’s my biggest disappointment at my workplace here in Melbourne, Australia.

    • Deb

      Wow, that was so unfair!!

      • Sowmya

        I am sure there are so many out there in this kind of situation!!

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          My brother-in-law had to close up shop. He was a wholesaler of reptiles, amphibians, rodents, small animals, etc. His biggest account was one of the chain pet stores that you all know. (Better I don’t say which o e; don’t want anyone in my family sued for defamation of character or slander.) She started sleeping with another wholesaler and gave all of the company’s business to that person. So, yeah, a lot of bad stuff happens out their in the business world.

          • Sowmya

            That’s bad! I don’t understand how people live without any conscience!!

            • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

              I always say I don’t know how some people can sleep at night.

      • Sowmya

        Yes Deb….. so many things in life are unfair for lot of us!!!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I wonder if someone higher up has a “interest” in her. (You know what I mean, right?) There’s nothing you can do about that except sue the company and hope they don’t want a court fight.

      • Sowmya

        I know what you mean Diane. May be what you said is true but that company is not there anymore!

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          HahahahaHa. Maybe that’s because of their staffing choices!

  • Deb

    Rochelle, I’m so sorry that you have such health issues and couldn’t fulfill your dream to be a nurse.

  • Ray Ayala

    Having my tax return rejected by the IRS. I made a small calculation error. They spent a lot of time and effort to point out a $15 mistake. Since it was from the IRS, though, it kind of scared me. They treated it like I was a bad person. I am just bad at mathematics. I had to send in another check for the difference.

    • Lynn

      Sorry Ray but your story is pretty funny.

      • Ray Ayala

        Thanks for the tuna idea. I can mix in some people food with the tuna and get it used to more dishes. The tuna is protein and will keep the cat slim.

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          Any time, Ray.

    • Deb

      Hahaha!!! Maybe he’s on a diet. Lol

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        LMBO. I guess he’s not a “fat cat”.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      That’s funny! Cats will be cats. I’m sure it’s nothing personal. Try giving it tuna or cat food. You can throw a little people-food in with it. They seem to love fish

  • Christina White

    Rejection is painful in any relationship, but the worse for me was the rejection of forgiveness from my adult daughters I made as a parent but God’s forgiveness is more important I will keeping on showing them love with acts of kindness which is rejected almost daily. I do simple things like fix meals for them when they work.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      This may sound mean but maybe you should try an experiment. Tell them enough is enough and don’t do anything for them for a little while. Buy what YOU want; go out for a little while sometimes. Don’t tell them where you are going. Maybe they’ll realize how much you really do for them, even though they hurt you, and maybe they’ll change their attitudes. It’s a gamble but how much worse can it get?

      • CHISTINA w.

        Somehow love will win. I live with my daughter and help with my grandchildren. I moved in 3 years ago. My daughter took me in when one of my 3rd daughterpoisoned me. I was given 2 weeks to live. The love of my grandchildren healed me. I wish I had not moved in , although I am independent I go to the gym 3 times a week. I will graduate college this year Lord willing, and have written 3 books. They insist I cannot live alone. They insist that I move in with my daughter who started this situation . They all insist I am senile. I have a 3.00 GPA . I am moving forward getting my car fixed that they broke and I have to pay to drove theirs although I pay rent etc. One day I will drove off into the sunset. I have helped to teach my grandchildren how to read when the school system cannot, this week the oldest was diagnosed with a hormone imbalance he 13 and will probably be 7 foot tall. My daughter insists that I am a burden. Thanks for the advice. I ran away once when they were young adults and they all came to where I was staying some with children and begged me. to come home

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          My husband’s youngest (of four) brothers was a textbook case of an elder abuser. Please don’t get mad at me but some of the things you mentioned were exactly the same things my brother-in-law did to his mom (i.e., drove her car and broke it, $500 in repairs that she put on HER credit card) but he also kept her isolated from everyone, even her own sister! I am worried for you and would love to see you get out of that house and be safe!

        • Deb

          Christina, You are living in hell. I’m sorry to be so blunt, but no one deserves to be treated the way that they are treating you. There are agencies out there that will help. Please contact someone to help you get away from these people. Please get out!!

    • Deb

      At this point all you can do is love them. We can’t go back and change what has happened. God can open their hearts and teach them how to forgive. I hope for all of your sakes that they learn to forgive.

  • Martha Badgett

    When I was 18 yrs old I became pregnant with my boyfriend’s baby, then when I was almost 3 month’s into my pregnancy I had a miscarriage, I was devastated, but what made it worse, about 1 month later he left me, I begged him to stay but he rejected me completely, that was one of the hardest parts of my life to get through, but by the grace of God I made it, I’m 56yrs old now and I have two handsome son’s and five grandchildren who I love with all my heart, everything happens for a reason

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I’m glad life worked out for you, Martha. I am a much different person at 58 than I was at 18, and you probably are, too. My husband used to use the “everything happens for a reason” expression. The older I get, the less I believe it, but only because I’ve had one health problem after another, so if there’s a reason for that, we can’t figure it out. Lol

      • Deb

        I hope that your health improves!!

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          Thanks, Deb! You’re too kind as always.

      • Martha Badgett

        I do pray that your health gets better Diane

        • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

          Thank you so much, Martha.

          • Martha Badgett

            Your very welcome

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    I know it’s easy for me to say this but try to remember all the bad things about him instead of the good. Maybe it’ll help just a little. Oh, and BTW, I walked into the one casino we found in Niagara Falls (a long time ago) just to get break a larger bill. I was 36 years old but the security guard insisted I show her proof of age. Boy, was I so NOT offended! In fact, I was walking on air for the rest of the day!

    • Lynn

      I always kid with the security guards and either ask them if they want to see my ID or I tell them that I forgot my ID and would they please let me go in just this one time. They always get a chuckle and sometimes they say something like okay, but just this one time. I figure it breaks the monotony of their day!!

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        Well, she wasn’t kidding. I know I look younger than I am but that was ridiculous. Although I got proofed regularly when I was thirty. My mom looked young, too. My mother-in-law looked so young that she happened to be dressed up the day of my husband’s prom. Someone took a picture of the two of them and anyone that doesn’t know her thinks she was his date!

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    Happy birthday, Karen!!! I didn’t take it so well when my little girl said to me, “I don’t love you.” I cried and cried, even though I knew she was manipulating me. As a very young girl, she was mart enough to be able to do that. Fast forward to present day: my daughter is now 25 and when one of us calls the other, if I don’t say, “I love you”, she gets upset. And even though she still lives with me, she calls me several times a day for my opinion on things. That’s a lot of “I love yous”!

  • Lynn King McKinney

    This isn’t a “rejection” per say. Yet, it’s the first time real life affected me. My Daddy passed away when I was a senior in high school. It’s was the first time I realized bad things could happen to me. It wasn’t his death, exactly, as he was a mortician, and I had been around death, OTHER PEOPLE’S, for as long as I can remember. However, I had never felt the emptiness of loss. I grew up a lot that year. Still love and miss you, Daddy.❤

    • Deb

      The sorrow of losing someone that you love can come over you in waves. You don’t really know where your soul is located in your body until you feel the ache of that emptiness. I’m sorry that your Daddy was taken from you so early in life.

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        What SHE said! And it’s not an obvious form of rejection, but a small part of your id is asking, “Why me? Why us?” You can’t help it. It’s a Freudian thing. I miss both my parents very much. There’s a big, empty hole in my heart for them. My son was too young to remember either of them. I wish they could see him now!

        • Deb

          Diane, how right you are. When we lost my stepdad it was very hard. The most grief that I felt was that the next generation wouldn’t know him. He was an amazing grandpa. My niece was pregnant at his funeral and to know that her child would never know him was so heartbreaking. My daughter keeps his picture out so that her kids will have some kind of recollection of him even though the little one never knew him. The older one asked to be taken to his grave occasionally. He kneels down, puts his hand over his heart and talks to him. Sometimes, he asks us to leave so he can talk to him in private. He is 21, has Fragile X, and is so sweet. He always salutes when he leaves the grave.

          • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

            That was a good idea. I should have put out pictures of my dad and my husband’s dad, who died three months after we were married.This way my kids may have remembered them better.

  • James Moulder

    A bit on the funny side. I am use to the rejection in life by now . But the one rejection that use to bother me is NOT TONIGHT HONEY I AM TIRED !!! Also all the rejections on taking surveys!

    • Deb

      Hahahaha!!!!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Lmao. Good one!

  • Deb

    Happy Birthday!! I hope your day was filled with joy!

  • Deb

    I love your reply. I’m sorry for your health problems.

    • Martha Badgett

      Thank you Deb

  • Deb

    It might help you if you did get in touch with him. You have a picture in your head of a young man that you loved. You may find out that the real man is not what you thought, and be glad that you didn’t waste your life on him. Then, you may be able to put the past where it belongs, in the past.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      That’s a great idea, Deb. You really do come up with some great ones.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I’ve been in contact with my ex-boyfriend (not very often). We’re “internet friends”. No funny business. He doesn’t even live in my state. My husband even invited his family over since his in-laws live in the next town north of me. He won’t come. I saw a picture of him. He told me he had gained weight, but he REALLY gained weight. What do I care? My family’s obese. But my husband’s convinced that he’s ducking me because of his weight gain. I was only about 101 pounds when we were dating. So Deb is probably right. You may see and in your head say, “Whaaaat?” At least MAYBE you’ll get some closure.

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    Are you kidding? I’m so glad you feel comfortable enough to discuss your life. Sometimes I feel I “talk too much” on the blog but there are so many nice people on here and it makes me feel good I’m not the only one. It’s also nice to hear people’s advice to other people. The old expression ‘two heads are better than one’ needs to be updated to apply to today’s online blogs and chats. Sorry for the diagnoses. Hang in there, Martha!

    • Martha Badgett

      Thank you Diane, sometimes I think I talk to much also, but like you said there are so many nice people on here, and you are one of those people, have a good night/ day, LOL

      • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

        Stick around, Martha. I think you have a lot of good advice and we’d all love to hear it! Have a good night!

  • MyKinKStar

    Being told by someone I loved and lived with that it was all a lie. I can look at it now and realize that was a lie itself, that he did care and love me, but the cruelty in saying all we shared didn’t mean anything to him hit me hard at that time. Well, it still hurts, but not like when it was raw. Of course I get lonely sometimes and wonder too much about how it might have been, but have learned to shut it down most of the time before it takes hold of my heart all over again. Love is great, until it isn’t anymore.

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      Especially love your last sentence. It’s soooooo true!!! Again, I don’t know how some people can sleep at night with the things they do to other people. I think when you least expect it, someone will come into your life who deserves to have you as a friend, confidante, and maybe, just maybe…

  • kandeels

    i was in college and I was a waitress at a small restaurant a few evenings and one weekend day a week to make ends meet. I had just met with all of the waitresses to make a new schedule, so that everyone had the days that worked best for them and I took on more time to make it easier for the others. When I went to work the following day, Saturday, the waitress told me, “I forgot that I am having a party for my boyfriend tomorrow and I need you to work the early morning shift.” I thought, “did I not just rearrange my schedule, see this girl yesterday, and now she remembers that she has planned a big party?” I refused to take the shift. She asked me many times throughout the day and I continued to refuse based on pure insensitivity, knowing full well that her party had not been planned the day before and I was being used. After my shift, later that night, I got a phone call from one of the owners and he fired me for not being a team player – – -Go figure, not a team player, me, not her!! Thankfully it was my first and so far (fingers crossed!!) firing that I had to endure!!

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      I got “let go” during my probationary period working for the state of NJ. My husband had to attend a Human Resources seminar the whole of the week after I was let go. He showed the letter the manager wrote to justify my firing. She laughed at it and said it would never stand up in court and that you cant fire anyone for what was written in the letter. My problem was they put me in a group that was very cliquish (and all mobidly obese and I was thin) and I actually liked to work and they liked to sit around in their fat asses and do nothing. I made them look bad. Even my preceptor was shocked. And I never met such two-faced, “talking behind ones back” people in my life. In previous jobs I used to manage groups of people (lab manager, systems analyst). If I managed like them, no work would ever get done. Oh! It DIDN’T get done there. New Jersians’ tax dollars at work. My old job asked me to come back and said I could have a job with benefits. I had left there because I didn’t have any and my husband wanted to retire.

  • ramadevi

    I am the youngest in my family. Whenever I try to contribute money, or gift to my sisters and brothers they don’t accept it. Even a suggestion they don’t consider because I am still very young for them. They still see me as a little chick. Now I am 50 + but they do not consider me as matured adult at all. It is painful and sad.

  • rose morgan

    Liking someone and not being liked back…ouch.

  • Rick Gottinger

    The hardest rejection i ever had was being told after being loyal to a company for 31 years and doing what was best for them ahead of myself, that I was being packaged. I took it and, after a while realized that it was their loss not mine.

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    We were always close. She was just a little manipulator at 18 months. She started speaking at 11 months and was up to full sentences by 18 months, AND she was born prematurely by two months. She’s a smart girl. And my son and her took good care of my mother-in-law when she had dementia and moved in with us and I had gotten too sick to do most of it anymore. (I should have taken a selfie of me rolling my IV and pole into her room. LOL)

  • Andrea

    The hardest rejection im dealing with is from my step daughters mother, She has no reason to dislike me she just ,makes things so hard on us and tries keeping the baby from us all the time. All because in her words “if she cant have him (my man) then no one can and he wont get his daughter” . did i mention she is pregnant right now with another mans baby who shes on again off again with .we’re trying to get the money to lawyer up but its a lot . It would be so much easier if stop rejecting me , maybe even take time to get to know me , and accept I love her daughter too and id never try to replace her mom and she needs to be allowed to see her dad and be part of our family as well

    • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

      When my husband started dating me, his ex-wife (who always used to say to him things like, “We should get divorced”, and would leave bruises on him”) would tell him to leave and when he went to leave she would grab his arm so hard she would leave bruises. She also tried to run him over with her car and tried to stab him with a fishing knife. The woman is not a stupid person but she is vindictive AND mentally ill. She put her kids and I through a similar hell as yours. She told my husband she hoped that I would get breast cancer and he would get mouth cancer. (I can’t even imagine what was going on in that messed up head of hers.) When we got engaged she told her daughter, “You don’t need me anymore. You have a new mother,” which really upset her daughter. Then SHE got engaged. The most important thing in her life is herself. My stepdaughter is now in her forties. Life is hard for them. She has a husband and two kids. Their house was underwater, child care was very expensive for a child with autism and ADD and another with ODD (although the psychologists have since changed that diagnosis to somethIng more specific). She was a manager in a hospital but had to work two jobs. She was earning her Masters degree online and she was exhausted. Her husband was working two jobs. Since mother and daughter have a love-hate relationship, my stepdaughter’s family was moving to Alabama to be near her husband’s family do they could help out, and they offered to get a mother-daughter house for her mom & mom’s husband. That was a resounding “no” because her mom wanted to move to Pennsylvania. Her mom said if she moved to Alabama, she would never speak to her daughter again. My stepdaughter would call us ever?y night crying for all the guilt-laden things her mom would say to her.

      His ex-wife has no filter and just says anything she wants, no matter how hurtful she is to the kids her ex-husband, and to us.

  • Diane Krumenaker Eugenio

    I went back to school for nursing at age 42. I started practicing at age 45 and worked for about 11 years until I had to go out on Long-term Disability. I was earning my bachelors online while I was working. If they won’t give you a license because of your heart condition, then that stinks. There are so many things you could do as an RN that only require sitting in a chair (i.e., telephonic nursing [through insurance companies, etc], Nursing Informatics, teaching LPNs, CNAs & home health aides, etc.). I loved what I did but my body couldn’t take walked miles a day for 12 hour shifts at the hospital. My legs got so edenamous that they went from skinny to elephant size and scared the crap out of my grown children. I had to stop working because of a different health issue but after I stopped working, my legs went back to normal and I never had that happen again. Some nursing can be rough on the body. Other positions are not but sometimes those employers want experienced staff and others want a bachelors or masters degree. Stay safe.

  • kayla

    my hardest rejection was when i was a little girl 12 years old I was staying over at a family friends house on summer break, when i had came home to grab some clothes i seen my step father and asked where my mother was. He looked up at me and said she was gone all she leaft was divorce papers and a note that said goodbye.. i had 4 siblings 3 sisters and 1 brother but i was the only one leaft behind!